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When I was in Londen with my fellow fireball photographers,

I had my photo taken. Not once, but six times by six different photographers. It was part of the game. And when these images  were shared on social media my Dutch past*

*Don’t brag, don’t show off, don’t display too much personality, don’t publicly show emotions, follow all the rules and regulations, don’t act like you’re better or better off than anyone else. (source

came creeping in around the corner. How do I feel, now these images are shared? Well, I was a bit like…oh what will everyone think seeing these images? Will they think I am vain? Is it vain to have your portrait taken? It was not the reason to have them taken in the first place…. If I post images of a client, it is ME posting those images. And this time I shared it on my own. One reason was to showcase and thank my fellow photographer who took the image. But is that strange, sharing these images on my timeline? What will people think, even the thought of (being brave here) thinking, will someone unfollow me for this? And how critically did I look at them (very critically, I must say ;-))

Another part of me was, I am very happy that I have these images now. I showed them to my kids and my husband. They liked them. It also made me feel, I somehow stopped time. There is a memory of me. These images are here to stay, even when I am gone or even tomorrow when I am one day older than today. Isn’t it the same reason why we love to take pictures of our babies/children? We want to document time, and change. Well, change does not stop when you grow up. Every day is another day. And I am worth it, like the commercials say.

So I took time to think about it. And after spending time with this subject I feel like it is so important to DO it, to have these images. We (the client and me) take time to create these images, we talk about it on fore hand. The same, as we did in London. I knew what to wear. I had my hair and makeup done. I wore false eyelashes (TMI LOL). It is not just an image, quickly taken. We carefully planned & prepared it.

You can say, sure you do because you ARE a photographer. It is your bread and butter. True but I also LOVE photography for other reasons. I love it because of the technical aspect. I love it because it is a way to meet wonderful people. I love posing. I love pushing myself to the next great image. It is the artist in me. And quite frankly that part does not always have something to do with you, the client. You, in front of my lens, make that happen. I need you to play. That is one part. The other (coming from my scrapbooking background) is wanting you to cultivate life, to give you beautiful images of yourself. Just because this second is not the second when you started to read this. Celebrate life.

Being vain is NOT the reason for these images. I will spend some more time with this subject in the near future.

(Images 1 & 2 by Chanon deValois photography, image 3 & 4 by Lauren Gregory photography , image 4 & 5 by Vikoria Kuti photography, image 6 by Christina Baldwin of Anthologie Portrait)

Behind the scenes I worked hard to finish my new info magazine. It gives you information on what to expect when you book a photoshoot wth me.

Here you can get it or email me so I can send you your copy.  Can’t wait to photograph you.

info magazine Hilde van der Sterren Photography

August 13, 2016

I met Nienke in Dubai just after we arrived in Dubai. She is such a kind women. She is a wife and a mum. Usually we would chat at pick-up time at school. She lived already a few years in Dubai so she was be a source of information. She is a do-er if she says something she will do it. I also love how engaged she is in her children school life. Prior to the photo session, I went to her home to chat about which clothes and which accessories we will use. I advise my clients to plan at least 5 outfits. We talk about different styles and the use of different style images.

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December 08, 2015

I love to spend some time together before we take the images. And doing hair and make-up makes a perfect opportunity to do that. This morning I had the pleasure to do hair and make-up for Heleen. It is so interesting to see what hair, make-up and posing does for an image.


November 15, 2015

This was such an amazing shoot. This girl is very dear to my heart. She says, I am not photo genetic, it is hard to take nice images of me…. During the shoot I showed her a few images on the back of my camera. And oh… silence… Is that ME? This is how I see myself inside my head. Thank you for making me feel beautiful again (photography, hair and make-up by me).

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Please have a look at my magazine (click here).

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November 02, 2015

This is what I love. Creating different looks. It feels a bit like a playdate in the studio. Trying on different outfits, adjusting hair and make-up, add a flower here or there, and then create different kinds of portraits.

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December 22, 2013

I am a little behind with blogging…. If you like to follow my work Facebook is more up to date…

The holidays are approaching FAST… which means family time. I will be closed from the 23rd of December till the 10th of January 2014 for a much needed and HOT vacation with my husband and kids. So that means no phone calls, no emails. They will be answered when I return.

I wish you a Merry Christmas and a wonderful, ‘may your dreams come through’, beloved, healthy 2014.



March 28, 2013

It can so great to solely work with one person. Usually mum is busy watching everyone else in a family session. To see if the behave, if they are dressed ok, if they don’t fight with a sibling.

What I like about these solo sessions, we have time to think about you. Make sure you are at ease. Celebrate your you-time. Take the clothes you love and….shoot…

I guide in posing to make you look your best. We have a common interest, to make you look the best you ever.

February 04, 2013

I read this article with tears in my eyes. Boy did it hit home…

How often we don’t want to be in the picture because… fill out your own reason like – quote article – we’re not as young as we used to be. We don’t always have time to blow dry our hair, apply make-up, perhaps even bathe (ducking). The kids are so much cuter than we are; better to just take their pictures, we think.

But we really need to make an effort to get in the picture. Our sons need to see how young and beautiful and human their mamas were. Our daughters need to see us vulnerable and open and just being ourselves — women, mamas, people living lives. Avoiding the camera because we don’t like to see our own pictures? How can that be okay?

Too much of a mama’s life goes undocumented and unseen.

Someday, I want them to see me, documented, sitting right there beside them: me, the woman who gave birth to them, whom they can thank for their ample thighs and their pretty hair; me, the woman who nursed them all for the first years of their lives, who ran around gathering snacks to be the week’s parent reader or planning the class Valentine’s Day party; me, who cried when I dropped them off at preschool, breathed in the smell of their post-bath hair when I read them bedtime stories, and defied speeding laws when I had to rush them to the pediatric ER in the middle of the night for fill-in-the-blank (ear infections, croup, rotavirus).

I’m everywhere in their young lives, and yet I have very few pictures of me with them. Someday I won’t be here — and I don’t know if that someday is tomorrow or thirty or forty or fifty years from now — but I want them to have pictures of me. I want them to see the way I looked at them, see how much I loved them. I am not perfect to look at and I am not perfect to love, but I am perfectly their mother.

When I look at pictures of my own mother, I don’t look at cellulite or hair debacles. I just see her — her kind eyes, her open-mouthed, joyful smile, her familiar clothes. That’s the mother I remember. My mother’s body is the vessel that carries all the memories of my childhood. I always loved that her stomach was soft, her skin freckled, her fingers long. I didn’t care that she didn’t look like a model. She was my mama.

So when all is said and done, if I can’t do it for myself, I want to do it for my kids. I want to be in the picture, to give them that visual memory of me. I want them to see how much I am here, how my body looks wrapped around them in a hug, how loved they are.

And this is why I love what I do. I love to take pictures to preserve the memory. I can totally relate to the fact that most woman don’t like to get their picture taken. Guess what!! I don’t like to get my pictures taken. But it is SO important to have images, so your story will be told and will be remembered. I study how to pose a certain body type to make it look it’s best. I pay attention to the little details, like how your shirt falls, how you can hold your arms so they don’t look ‘big’. So if you are very self conscious; have your images taken by a professional who works with you and make you look your best. Or do it your self, but make sure there are images of YOU because at the end of the day that is all what matters to your loved ones.

Hilde and family photo taken by Hilke van Lieshout

Me and my family photo taken by Hilke van Lieshout